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The Dempsey Challenge 2018

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The Dempsey Challenge 2018

The Dempsey Challenge is a two-day, non-competitive run, walk, cycle fundraiser which champions the spirit of celebration and culture of paying it forward, all hosted in actor Patrick Dempsey’s hometown of Lewiston, Maine. Every dollar raised by Challenge participants benefits the Dempsey Centers — leaders in Quality of Life care for individuals and families impacted by cancer.

If your life has been touched by cancer in some way then you should consider contributing. This page is for Kalyn LeBlanc who is raising money for the Dempsey Challenge this year. The video above tells her story.  She is donating her time and her running skills to the cause and needs your help.  The size of the donation really doesn’t matter, it is the thought that we are all working together to help treat those who have been afflicted by cancer. 

I have given my small part because my father is fighting cancer and my grandmother lost that fight in 1994. I don’t want anyone else to lose.  Give Today! I will personally send you a thank you note.


Reflections of Flowers

Sometimes it is a good thing to walk in the flowers

Another year has passed and its events are placed in the history books of my life. I am fortunate to be able to report a very good year, with its fair share of change, new experiences, interesting things, wonderful people and a healthy dose of fun in there as well. When it comes to times of reflection like this, it is always the people who are most prevalent. I am very fortunate to have known many wonderful people over the years and to be connected with some great ones now.  I have learned many lessons but here are a few of the things I have learned over the past year which I wish for all of those I care about.

Nostalgic Music Month

In September of the past year, I was asked to do a project on my blog with Mike Martin to declare October Nostalgic Music Month. He had his own agenda of

Some people never change. This guy never follows the rules

reasons but of course, I agreed. Each day we each contributed some of the nostalgic music that brought us back to some place in the past.  It was fun and connected me to a lot of music in the past.  Here is the link. 

My wish for you today is that you remember the good things and let the negative fade into the background. Life is too short for spending time worrying about negative things in the past. Understand that even negative things can have an ultimately positive result. Letting something from your past affect you like it is happening right now, robs today of the potential it has. Focus on the good because it is always there.  So enjoy some music from the past, and make new memories today.

Words Have Power

I did another long-term project from November to March of the year designed to raise the level of my conscious thought by choosing one word a day and then focusing on how I could make conscious choices in my life around that word. My life changed a lot during that project, and I became a better person for it.  The link to all of those words is here.

My wish for you is that you look at your words and how they are affecting your experience in life. Each day we decide our thoughts, they lead to our emotional response, the words we speak, and the actions that we take. By changing your focus to simple words like kindness, understanding, or acceptance you can change the impact you have on the world and the impact the world has on you.  Think of that.

Try New Things

Life is a tricky experience sometimes. We work hard to put ourselves in positions where we are safe, but sometimes the routines of safe are limiting and stop you from trying new things and allowing new people into your life that can get you to expand your horizons.  This year a cool breeze blew into my life and changed it


forever. The impact of this person has been positive and fun. My perspectives have been shifted and I am grateful for that.

I wish for all of you to have a cool breeze blow into your life. Be that a new relationship, or a revitalization of one that has been in existence for 30 years. Life is a game that is better enjoyed by two people. It is ultimately more fun, and the choices we make in this realm determines our long and short-term happiness.  Remember a beginning or a new beginning is only a single choice away.  Make the one that makes you happy.

Learning is a Lifetime Activity

I try to learn something new every day that is helpful to my life. We are fortunate to live in an age where virtually all of the knowledge of the world is located at our fingertips. Anything you want to learn about you can access for free just by completing a Google search. I have learned much over the year. Nothing had more impact than reading The Power of Now by Eckart Tolle in a book club format. Asking questions, and thinking about how to take that mentality into my life. It helped me understand the conflicts between my ego, or the false self, and my true self.

I wish for all of you to expand your horizons by learning something new. No matter what your age, or current occupation. Take time to read something new, investigate a new idea and see where those new thoughts take you. Your brain can grow and develop late into your life. Use it, follow your interest and see what comes back to you.  Your life will change and move you closer to who you were born to be. Learning is a lifetime activity, use it.


Bucket List

Most people have this on their list but have never done it. Now I can take it off.  Please feel free to watch the video of my fall to Earth and read my thoughts on High Flying Skydiving.  

Sole Searching…

My favorite human’s blog

Kalyn Danielle Designs

#7: Shoes – a covering for the foot, typically made of leather, with a sturdy sole and not reaching above the ankle.


Is there ever a thought that crosses your mind as to how many steps you take in your lifetime? There are different technologies now that tell us how many steps we take in a day, but do we ever think about what it took to gain that achievement? What piece of ground our sole touched as we achieved this small goal?

Shoes I think are under appreciated for how often they are used we wear them everyday, we complain about them when we’ve stood for long periods of time, and we accessorize with them. They protect us from the outside grime of the streets, bathrooms, and cafeteria grounds. We sympathize with them when something sticks to the bottom, but also squish bugs without hesitation.  They are a piece…

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My Attitude

Even when you try to be positive in your life it takes an effort to keep the positivity moving forward in life on a consistent basis. When you let your thoughts run wild on their own, you are at the mercy of that stampede of random things. Someone says or does something simple but annoying and your mod is altered toward the negative. Your schedule is interrupted and you have to adjust. These simple things can throw you out of your mood and make your attitude less than stellar.  It happens when something makes you look at the world from a selfish standpoint. what does this mean to me? Rather than what you can offer the world at this moment.  So a change in your attitude can come when you make a choice to be more giving and less worried about what you get.  Read more 


Kalyn Danielle Designs

#5 Cake – an item of soft, sweet food made from a mixture of flour, shortening, eggs, sugar, and other ingredients, baked and often decorated.

“If you’re trying to create a company, it’s like baking a cake. You have to have all the ingredients in the right proportion” – Elon Musk

Have you ever baked a cake? Well if you have you know that there’s first a recipe and it can get pretty technical depending on your experience and your choice of baked good…for me it was always baking cakes, it wasn’t too long ago that I decided to bake a different cake every month. I was about seventeen and I was influenced by too many baking/cooking shows, each of which over dramatize the experience of baking…talk about stressful. This was not my approach to baking, instead I took each recipe one at a time, preparing all the ingredients before…

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High on Life…

Kalyn Danielle Designs

#4 Life – the condition that distinguishes animals and plants from inorganic matter, including the capacity for growth, reproduction, functional activity, and continual change preceding death, also can be defined as the existence of an individual human being or animal.


I was recently asked by a co-worker as to why I was so happy, I simply looked at them and told them “I am high on life, there is nothing better than being alive in this moment right here and right now because tomorrow the moment will end and this will simply be a memory.” They looked at me and smiled, I am not sure what was going through their minds in that moment maybe they were asking themselves what could possibly be making her so happy? All I could hope for was a chance to make their day better.

As a child I found myself naturally very happy it…

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The Mona Lisa Smile…

Kalyn Danielle Designs

#3 Art: “Beauty is in the Eye of the Beholder”

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Why is art important?

Why does art resonate in different individuals lives?

These are a few questions I have asked myself over the several years I’ve been old enough to admire the masterpieces within the artistic realm. I have experienced these 9″X13″, 10″X12″, and 12″X36″ paintings these priceless pieces of history, culture, and overlapping oil paints as they are so often described, how would our appreciation be different without them? How do you value art?

Value – the regard that something is held to deserve; the importance, worth, or usefulness of something.

As someone who participates in creating visual designs I place a very high value on art, it is an extension of my emotional intelligence and it allows me an escape from the world around me for an hour or two. I can get lost in…

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Lessons from a lighthouse…

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#2: Light – The natural agent that stimulates sight and makes things visible

Lighthouses have many great qualities and are under appreciated by many. We can learn lessons from these structures that stand tall with enduring strength. The following message is that of a lighthouse….lessons from the lighthouse…

  1. Strength: Lighthouses can be found sitting on the edge of the rocky ocean some may even be found on nearby islands, they sit admiring the oscillating waves, the squawking birds, and the occasional whale. The placement of the lighthouse  however increases its importance, intended as structure to guide lost boats through storms. A wave of ten feet can produce the strength of 410 tons, therefore, the lighthouse must endure the strength of ten-thousand waves or more. Lets embrace this lesson from the lighthouse and remain standing tall with much strength no matter the weight of any wave in our life.
  2. Guidance: Lighthouses…

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The ability to create is a gift that makes us fantastically human. Everyone has the ability and opportunity to be creative in something that they do. There is a magic in seeking to create, it will allow you to reach your highest potential in certain areas.  If you are seeking answers and your mind seems clouded, create something.  There is a concentration in truly creating something that pushes the constant stream of thought to the side and allows communication with your soul.  This is where your answers lie and it is through the process of being creative that it is accessed.  Most people know what others expect from them. It may not make you happy but it will make others happy.  What will allow you to enjoy life might be another path altogether.

Take time to create in whatever method is available to you. It can be clearly artistic or it may be a better way of doing tasks at work to be more efficient. The avenue of creation is always stretched out before you. Move down it in thoughts, words, and actions today.

Every soul has the power to create something that can only come from them, so find it and create it and release it to the world. It is your duty to life.

Create this




Maintaining your health is a key element in getting the most out of this human experience. You only get one physical body to experience the world through. Humans seem to be hell-bent on destroying their bodies as quickly as possible.  Through destructive behavior of drinking, drugs, smoking, and a lack of exercise, we seem to be trying to shorten the experience of life as quickly as we can.  The human body was built for movement and that is why exercise makes you feel so much better about things.

It is also a choice what and how much we eat every day.  Eating is how you fuel your body for the day ahead. We seem to put much more meaning on the consumption of food. People look for comfort in eating, or to fill time unconsciously. There are thousands of diets available for people who want to be healthier.  Each person is different so find the one that resonates with you and give it a try.  It is only through trying something different that change is going to come.

The physical activity and diet we choose determine our weight, health and enjoyment level in life.  Choose wisely. At least be conscious of your activity level and what and how you are eating. Be Conscious in your thoughts, words, and actions today.

More health here

“To enjoy good health, to bring true happiness to one’s family, to bring peace to all, one must first discipline and control one’s own mind. If a man can control his mind he can find the way to Enlightenment, and all wisdom and virtue will naturally come to him.”  ~ Buddha 


Word of the day

Optimistic– hopeful and confident about the future.

There is a choice that exists in every moment between the positive optimism of life and the negative pessimism of what the future holds. We choose to be hopeful and confident or be bleak and negative about what is to come. Being optimistic is not ignoring the bad and difficult but choosing to move forward in a positive direction.

There are plenty of negative messages we receive every day through the media and even from those we love. It is the challenge of being optimistic to recognize these messages for what they are, a choice. You choose to agree with them or you don’t.  Do you accept the challenges that life gives you or do you hide from them? That is the real choice of optimism.

Being optimistic, anything is possible. Being negative nothing is. Choose to enjoy the unlimited possibilities of being optimistic. 

For those who are more optimistic




Dreaming for a child is second nature. Through our development, we tend to let our dreams fall away, but more importantly, we lose the process of dreaming. A dream is a thought about where you would like to be, what you would like to do, or even who you want to be. The process of creating a vision, then taking actual steps of action to achieve it can be done by anyone. Not every dream is a guarantee but in the pursuit of our dreams, greatness happens.  Be great today and create, remember and/or follow a dream.

You never know what is going to happen once you start taking action to make a dream become reality. But it will be an adventure to find out. Dream today.  Be conscious of the dreams that are being pursued in your life and the lives of others. Let your thoughts, words, and actions support the dreamers, including yourself.  If you think dreams can’t come true, at least get out of the way of those who are making them happen.

More on Dreams Here

“Every great dream begins with a dreamer. Always remember, you have within you the strength, the patience, and the passion to reach for the stars to change the world.”~ Harriet Tubman





By remaining calm when all is in chaos around you, solutions will be found and a refuge from the storm for others will be established.  There will be storms in life, no matter what you do. To develop the skill of remaining



calm, the best solutions for all involved will be within your reach. Panic never solved anything. It creates more issues. Being calm is a skill that needs to be developed and practiced like any other. The reward for mastery is a keen ability to see the moment for what it is.

“When adversity strikes, that’s when you have to be the most calm. Take a step back, stay strong, stay grounded and press on.”  L.L. Cool J

Read more to chill out here 




CharacterOur character is defined by our essence. This is determined by our focus of thoughts, words, and actions. Whether we are a positive or a negative force in the world is determined by our choices of character, the level of integrity, honesty, caring, acceptance, love, etc. we choose to share with the world.  Even if in honest contemplation, you find yourself lacking in certain areas, a person can improve any area by changing their focus and making different choices.  We are the only ones who can determine what our character will be. Choose wisely today in your thoughts, words, and actions.   Read more about character Here 

Character is like a tree and reputation like a shadow. The shadow is what we think of it; the tree is the real thing.” ~ Abraham Lincoln


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