When we look to judge the behavior of others it is going to lead to negativity coming back into our lives. Judgment makes people feel superior for the moment and that by pointing out the missteps of others makes us feel better about our own messy lives. As this quote by Wayne Dyer so aptly says, we are defining ourselves clearly with every judgmental word about others. We are showing our character and the need we have for change. The only person that you can actively change is yourself, so why not put the focus on that and leave the judgments alone. See your own problems and weaknesses and strive to improve them. Let others worry about their situation and lives. You will be a much happier, vibrant person.